Midlife Crisis and Issues. Getting the help you need.
There is a lot of confusion and mis-information about the issues that face us mid-life. Often termed Midlife crisis, this is a real problem that can be helped through Counselling.
Midlife crisis is not so much a condition as a change. Contrary to popular belief, it affects both men and women. Women face the same challenges, through symptoms and consequences often appear differently.
Life is full of transitions, from baby to child, child to teenager, teenager to young adult etc. These are all marked by quite predictable changes in thoughts and problems. The change from young adulthood to a midterm adult is just the same, though it is often not treated seriously and is sometime even ridiculed. In midlife we are more likely to take it upon our self to cope, man-up and just carry our burdens.
This transition is often marked by depression and anxiety which can last for many years, unless some action is taken. It is these symptoms that lead people to change behaviours and life plans in an attempt to give themselves a sense of hopefulness. It is unhelpful to dismiss these as a phase or irresponsible behaviour, it is a real attempt to take control of the feelings and emotions that such a difficult life change can bring.
Low mood lasting two weeks or more
Not getting any enjoyment out of life
Thinking about death.
Feeling tired or lacking energy
Not being able to concentrate on everyday things
Sleeping more than usual or being unable to sleep
The Midlife lifestyle often brings crisis and drama. This a result of a more complex and obligated life. In the process of ‘building a life’ we take on more and more responsibility until we feel overwhelmed. Wanting to negate, transfers or undo responsibility is a natural reaction, though the resulting guilt and emotions may compound sadness and depression further.
Midlife crisis often also brings increased thoughts and fear of death, and what has been achieved in our lives so far. This can leads to feelings of disappointment and decreased self regard and worth.
If you or someone you know may be having midlife crisis difficulties it is important to seek help as soon as possible. Just carrying on regardless can result in years of difficulties. You really don’t have to live with depression, you can break through and experience happiness in midlife. To consider it as ‘normal’ and something to just struggle through is to inflict on yourself needless suffering.
We don’t understand life any better at forty than we do at twenty, but know it and admit it. – Jules Renard
Midlife Crisis – Its good to talk.
Counselling is effective in helping people through midlife issues. It helps you to see yourself and your circumstances differently, and helps you find your answers to life’s difficult questions. A counsellor will help you explore whats going on without judgment and utmost confidentiality.
You don’t have to work through issues alone. Contact us now and we will help you through life difficulties.