Who can you tell your most sensitive secret too?

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Who can you tell your most sensitive secret too?

Do you have a Secret that you're are afraid to share? Our lives aren't always what they should be. Things don't always go to plan and we don't always react in the best way. Bec ...

Do you have a Secret that you’re are afraid to share?

Our lives aren’t always what they should be. Things don’t always go to plan and we don’t always react in the best way.

Because at the end of the day, we are trying to do our best in life with what we have. Life doesn’t always go according to plan.

silhouette-376538In a world that places such high values on integrity, faithfulness and morality, being imperfect can be a problem. Please raise your hand if you are perfect and leave the room!

Many people hold onto secrets which disturb them. Their lives just don’t measure up to other people’s scrutiny. This means that issues are often unaddressed. They can develop into bigger problems that spiral out of control.

It may be;

  • Disturbing thoughts,
  • Sexual problems
  • Active or previous affairs,
  • Dilemma’s about sexuality or gender,
  • Regrets and animosity about family decisions,
  • Guilt or fear over the past.
  • Hidden addictions and desires or even suicidal thoughts.

Keeping secrets and not being able to tell anyone makes us feel lonely and isolated. It can influence seemingly unconnected aspects of out lives, including physical and mental health. It usually reflects on our relationships too, increasing the risk of unhealthy attachments and dysfunctional family problems.

There is much evidence to support the fact that sharing inner fears, dark thoughts and experiences help us to see situations in a different light. Talking about problems helps us to move forward, accept ourselves and make the changes we want. However, it can seem impossible to find someone that we can trust. To talk about our issues can be dangerous. It means showing someone the ‘real us’, exposing our vulnerabilities and the risk of being condemned, judged and rejected.

People don’t always think about turning to a professional counsellor for help, usually because of misunderstandings about what counsellors do. You can speak to your counsellor about anything and be certain of absolute confidentiality.loneman

Counsellors understand what it means to be imperfect, to make mistakes and to not always obey the social rules. Life isn’t always straightforward.  Counsellors know how to listen to possibly dark and controversial issues without judgement. They will see the world from your eyes, understanding your dilemmas and hurt. Most importantly you will be accepted. Because at the end of the day, we are trying to do our best in life with what we have. Life doesn’t always go according to plan.