Breaking all the rules.
If your breaking the rules and thinking of making a change in life, read on.
We may not know how social rules originate, but we feel their impact. Rules that prompt responsibility, obligation, selflessness construct in us a code to live by. And for the main part, they work for us and go unquestioned. Unquestioned that it, until we enter into circumstances where they no-longer seem to work for us.
There are just so many ways we are supposed to behave, values that we are meant to embrace. For the good of others, society and ourselves. And differing opinion’s about the importance and priorities of such rules provide many a opportunity for mis-understandings and disputes, particular with family, loved ones and friends.
- How to make friends.
- How to be in relationships.
- Giving and receiving.
- What constitutes success
- Ethics around making money.
Are just some the areas of life that are governed by social rules.
Someone once said that rules are made to be broken, and at some point or other everyone comes to an experience where they need to break the rules. Unfortunately life isn’t often kind enough to provide just the right situation for us to change, and we have to break rules to grow and become all we can be.
It’s maybe inconvenient to other’s when we challenge the rules, but it’s very normal. Sometimes we become aware that it is these rules that prevent us from becoming the person we want to be. That to develop we have to move on from people or circumstances and by doing so we need to step out, and rethink our beliefs and values.
When people get stuck in a rut in their lives, its often because they have begun to normalise and tolerate situation that hold them back. They are often told that there is no other way, this is all there is. There is some truth that we can find some happiness in most situations, but we should also recognise when we are in a situation or relationship that is toxic for us. That it is time to move on, possibly break the rules to save ourselves from descending into depression, anxiety and other mental health concerns.
If you have a important decision to make. If your thinking of braking the rules or making a major change in life , then its important that you talk to people who can help you. People who won’t judge or give their opinions but will help you reflect on all the different aspects of the change, both positive and negative. It can be difficult to find friends who are objective and will be on your side. Being on your side doesn’t mean having to agree with everything you say, but means supporting you in living the life that you think is best.
If you would like to talk about a major decision in your life, Please call me for a chat. We can talk about whats going on for you and talk about how counselling may be able to help you.